Acceptance - A Way to Reduce Stress

Guys I got one hour to let go and recharge... come on...

Well guys, it's been a long time. And I am just here now, in a net cafe, yes, this is my working hour but I have to get out to produce some copies of my report, so I got an hour to standby and think of something better. Just waiting for the lady to tell me it's my turn, it's first come first serve rule. So here I am trying to find something that can relieve me from becoming stress again today, I cannot avoid to load my mind with so many things, about my personal life, about my family, about my sister who is sick at the moment, well, that's because I am human. If you have same case with mine, then do not worry that much, we are just human after all, we have feelings.

Today, I got one hour to look for something for myself and for you too. Do not worry, I am not selfish sharing you the things that can help us reduce and relieve our body and mind from being exhausted and stress out. I have shared you several ways already, but I would always disclaim, I am not the expert guys, if you are reading this today, that's because you want to hear the statement of the person who is in the state of stress, and is trying to get out himself from the situation.

Another effective way to cope with stress and get away from it is a simple acceptance. Often times we worry about tomorrow, if we have problems today we always try to guess what will happen next. We want to solve the problems right away, or else we want to always see a good result which is not possible all the time.

In the last chapter of my short story, I shared this :

When you are weak, don’t deceive yourself to be not. Accept that you are troubled, and you will find the exit, and eventually you will be heading towards the source of your strength.

It's about acceptance, it's about unloading ourselves from too much thoughts of possibilities, from the thinking so many 'how if's'! Today, yes I am troubled again, well that's life and I'll accept it! What should I do? I am not going to let myself worry that much this time around, I just need to pace forward, to do what need to be done, and that's it. If there would be situation that beyond my limit and capabilities, then let it be. If I learn to accept, there would be some ways that I can find my strength in the midst of being weak. Maybe, in a different way. Yes, there must be always an exit.

Guys, if you are trouble right this time, join me. Let's breath together.

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• Life, I Live (C-3)
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Posted by Editorial Team on 3/07/2012 10:23:00 AM in Stress Management

Life, I Live -Chapter III

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When you are weak, don’t deceive yourself to be not. Accept that you are troubled, and you will find the exit, and eventually you will be heading towards the source of your strength.

Wings was a silent-type guy. He did not talk that much, yet they often had private conversations with Grace. Any sign of special treatment? Well, Grace treated him just like Rose; she knew that he was still coping with the lost of his twin brother. The two were perfect buddies, and she could better understand the situation.

After several days, Grace found out something. She was not sure about it, but she felt different with him. Was she in loved with Wings? She should not be. Even Rose insisted that she only treated Wings as her brother, but she knew exactly that her cousin had feelings for Wings… Rose was madly in love with William, and only Wings could best play his role. They were just the same.

She saw several video of William, mostly beach hang outs, and the twin brothers shared things in common. The way they talked, the way they laughed, and the way they liked things.

One day, Grace caught his gaze. But she was sure not to fall in love with this stranger—he was still to her, even Rose knew her well, but the short time they were together were not enough. She was really cautious about having relationship with somebody she did not know well.

The situation was too complicated. She had so many dreams, and it could not be stopped by her emotion. At least she knew exactly that she was not the subject, it’s Rose. She must keep silent. Along the way, she knew, she would definitely look after Wings just any other guy—nothing special.

What if he would insist? Honestly, she admitted she did not know how to resist. This guy was like her favorite cake she barely tasted, his tempting her, but no, she would resist.

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Posted by Editorial Team on 3/03/2012 05:33:00 PM in Life-I Live (Story)

Life, I Live -Chapter II

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Life is about choosing the right direction; it’s about extracting one simple essence or venturing out the complexity beyond… and get lost along the way.

Rose was not all alone, she had Wings with her. When William was reported missing after he and his buddies got stranded in the Islands of Batanes 7 months ago, Rose begun to fall on her knees. Her strong personality was tested by the lost of him. The shipwreck had shown no sign of human remains, until now she seemed lost somewhere; she knew William was still there, alive. Wings resembled exactly as his twin brother, but she is not falling in love with him. She loved William, and she would continue loving him even she would find one day that his dead.

“Rose, can you just forget him?” Said Grace, finding out Rose was looking out in nowhere. “Continue believing that his alive will deprived you to be happy.” She said sympathetically.

“I wanted to, but I just can’t. He always popped out here inside wherever I am.” She’s trying to hold back her tears, but it’s undeniable that she’s too drowned with emotion.

“Coz, you are here to release that, so I am here… you can cry on me, I will help you let him go.”

“When I found out that Dad was cheating, I told myself I would resist, that I will be strong for Mom, but now, I can’t make it.”

Rose held her strong personality, as strong as Carmen, but when her mother almost gave up, she tightened her grip, now, she would continue struggling to remain in place, or she would be washed away too. Fortunately, her heart was always positive that she won’t be taken away from her anchor!

The misery felt by her mother, and the sorrow she had inside won’t stop her.

Lesson: As I we talked about on how to cope with stress, the story above is a perfect example. Rose did not self-medicate. She did not lock in her room; she did not find the company of drugs and alcohol helpful to ease her feeling, she did not even hang out in night clubs. Instead, she found that the company of people close to her is helpful. She released it. She accepted she’s already weak. She took it as an opportunity to find strength again.

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Posted by Editorial Team on 3/03/2012 04:46:00 PM in Life-I Live (Story)

Life, I live

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Life, it’s not living like the promised paradise. Shall I say it’s just like playing a seesaw! Yes, in fact, if today you are at the top, tomorrow you would wake up seeing yourself not in there anymore. Yet, how can you stay happy despite it all?

I am Prime Aque, and let me tell you a story. This is a story I wrote long ago, when I was still a young boy at my high school days. Life, it’s not about age, it’s about awareness, well, long ago I knew what it took to live a life. So here, its life we live for. Is it tough? I guess it’s more.

Grace is a local woman who was raised in a distant from what they called town. She lived with her parents, and her older brother, Johnny. Like any other, she dreamed a happier life one day, a life different from what she used to wake up each morning. She and Johnny had just a nice dream for their family. They had still one year left in their bachelor degree, but it was a hot summer, so they enjoyed being with Gerry, and Carmela. They have been so closed to their parents that they would keep no secret from them. A cold Thursday night, when everyone was almost asleep, a loud barking of dogs echoed the house. Johnny stood up and had a glimpse outside; the dim light of the moon gave two shadows of people standing just few meters away.

“Who are they?” He mumbled. But then the barking stopped.

Grace got a tight sleep. It was good as she and Johnny always go to bed late in town; they got so many things to do just to make their dreams come true. Fortunately, she was expecting for an academic recognition. She stood up and headed towards the window, the first thing she always do inside her room after waking up. She loved watching the rising sun.

“Grace?” She turned around, and surprised as this lovely one was unexpected to be standing just beside her. “Rose!” She threw herself with her cousin’s arms widely opened.

These two shared traits in common, Rose was born with a silver platter, but after Carmen, her mother discovered that her husband lived with a mistress, she stand strong pulling back her family from shuttering into pieces and she never gave up. Rose knew that one day, everything will be fine again. On the same hand, Grace was always positive despite of the face of poverty. Carmen got married with a businessman in Manila 25 years ago, but Carmela, her younger sister, chose to stay and fall in love with Gerry, her lover back in high school. Though she was offered with fortune, but she chose to live a life with love and faith. Money for her was like fallen leaves on the ground, as it could easily washed away when a storm came. (To be continued…)

Lesson: Life is about choosing the right direction; it’s about extracting one simple essence or venturing out the complexity beyond…

Characters: Grace, Johnny, Rose, Wings, William, Gerry, Carmela, Carmen

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Posted by Editorial Team on 2/28/2012 09:14:00 PM in Building a Better Life, Life-I Live (Story)

Where Moderate Use of Alcohol and Drugs Lead You?

Self-medication should be avoided. When you are in trouble, it’s always good to seek the guidance of the people you trust. The use of alcohol and drugs will give you the disadvantage in the long run! They are just temporary reliefs, but if you want to cope with stress, if you want to get out from trouble, then you have to seek the right way. The use of alcohol and drugs, even if someone says he is using it moderately will end up walking towards dead end!

Self-medication often times deceives you. Today, you will find their company calming. But within a certain period, it will hunt you like a predator running after your life. The moderate use will become excessive and abnormal. It will become uncontrollable. The dark spirits of alcohol and drugs will control you completely, that you got no choice but to follow like a puppet. You will be walking to and pro without purpose in mind. Remember, we are purposely gifted with life.

But it’s always been a choice whether to proceed finding the real way out or choose the easy ones, the company of these bad spirits. Bear in mind, it’s not lasting. If you choose this, get ready to walk up one day with nothing like a lost soul in a desert with nothing left but you, the scorching sun, amidst the endless earth of sand.

Beware alcohol and drugs are just like snakes. They can be your friends, but they would bite you at your back, taking away your life. Choose, live or die not in time. Addiction, it's a result of the wrong practice, self-medication!

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Posted by Editorial Team on 2/24/2012 06:28:00 PM in Building a Better Life, Stress Management

How to Reduce Stress: No to Alcohol and Drugs

When was my last entry, well it was couple of days already. Tonight, I am hear to continue my mission in giving our remedies for stressful situations in day to day living. I have observed almost a week on several things around, and being stressed out is the common result of our hectic schedules and tough encounter with life.

Some people usually practice self medication trying to find the nearest escape to their problem. Have you observed yourself? Have your observed your colleagues? Have your observed your friends? If you did, did they mask stress with alcohol and drugs? According to Study Guides and Strategies (studygs.net), alcohol and drugs won't deal with the problems, hence it won't help you cope yourself from the stressful situation. It is not the way to reduce stress, it may just worsen your feeling.

What happened to Whitney Houston? Well, I am not judging her, but we all know that she went into rehab because of a drug addiction (I don't know how true was that though), but I won't dig more, the news was enough for me. The lessons we get from her life behind the super successful singing career are rich to learn. She spent a lot of time in celebrity drug rehabs but she kept on relapsing as the years went by. It's mistake to use drugs and alcohol to run away!

In short, it is not just right to practice self-medication. According to Wikipedia - the free encyclopedia, it is the term used to describe the use of drugs and alcohol to treat untreated [relieve or reduce] stress and anxiety. Please read full definition about self-medication.

Whenever there is self-medication, and then addiction, a worst nightmare will soon conquer your bedtime! No, it will take away your precious life... (I will post about addiction as part of this topic soon.)

Sources:
♥Managing Stress @ studygs.net
♥Self-Medication @ Wikipedia
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Posted by Editorial Team on 2/18/2012 09:53:00 PM in Building a Better Life, Stress Management

How to Reduce Stress: Don't Prolong the Agony

At work, or where ever, we encountered misunderstanding. People who do not know the worst effect of holding any pain, discomfort, distress or dislikes or even hatred will even find ways to prolong it. Instead of ending the trouble, they continue making actions to worsen the situation. What they do get anyway? Well, wrinkles and headaches. That's only a wrapper of the whole package brought by the situation. What's inside is the threat of your health!

When you found out that your neighbor or your colleague fight you at your back, or made some actions against you, of course, they deserve your confrontations, or if you can't manage and hold your temper, it will lead to an extended trouble. But what should you do in the end of the day? Are you going to bring the bitter feelings at home? No.

Leave the feeling at the place where it happened and let go of it. That's what I exactly learned today. Please do not prolong the agony, anger or bitterness inside you. Once you have released it, never let it bother you one more time. You better find some ways to solve it right away, talk to the person nicely perhaps. Sometimes light trouble would become heavy, open your mind and look at it at it's true weight and never waste your time on it.

It's stressful right? So find the solution to relieve yourself. I am doing it almost everyday! We are in the real world and such things are inevitable!

Tip: Listen, Speak and Keep Silent. If you have spoken your side, keep quite and let the situation back to normal again! Time will always heal.

Each day, our body and mind deserve some ways to reduce stress, always remember too much stress is dangerous to our health!

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Posted by Editorial Team on 2/10/2012 10:00:00 PM in Building a Better Life, Communication, Stress Management

How To Reduce Stress: Set Priorities

Our health is the vehicle to our destination, without it, imagine walking a long long way...

Anyway, I am truly stressed out, sometimes even if I am trying hard to run away from stressful situations, but it seems I am in the midst of it the entire month! This is truly a challenging chapter of my life, since I got a parade of deadlines. When the nightfall comes, it is really nice to find something refreshing, well it's not good to go to sleep with mind still occupied with thoughts that can make your entire bed time a nightmare.

This is a part two of how to reduce and cope with stress! There are many ways, and I will tackle it here one by one, I able to come up with this valuable topic because I need this myself in the first place.

Tonight, I stumbled upon with a very helpful guide that talk exactly on how can we manage our stress! I pick one and it's simple:

Don't sweat the small stuff: Try to prioritize a few truly important things and let the rest slide. (www.studygs.net)

What do you think about it? It's just simply related to multitasking. If we are exhausted in doing lot of things, why not evaluate them and set aside the less important ones?

The old saying is true, we cannot better serve two masters at the same time, or unless we can manage. There are really extraordinary people out there, but if you are just like me, if you experienced back-pain and headache already, do not hesitate to list down the things that you wanted to accomplish, which of them are must to do and do it. Forget the miscellaneous ones and think about them if you got the extra time.

In everything we do, we must think of our health in the first place, it serves as a vehicle to our destination, without it imagine walking a long long way...

Study Guides and Strategies: How Can You Manage Your Stress?
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Posted by Editorial Team on 2/07/2012 09:43:00 PM in Building a Better Life, Stress Management

How to Reduce Stress: Stop Multitasking

Are you stressed? Why? That is a simple question you need to answer when you just feel the burden within yourself everyday. In order to live healthy, we need to find ways on how to deal and cope with stress. Sometimes, we are not aware that when we are drowned with so much plans and thoughts it can give us stress.

What happened when we are stress? I mean what is the first thing you feel when you are stress? Headache right? And you cannot just think well. If you are working like me, we are prone to stress because of our hectic schedules, we are always thinking of our unfinished paper works, and even we brought that burden at home, to the extent, we would have several sleepless nights. See, stress can have a domino effect to our health. And since we need to stay healthy all the time, we must find ways on how manage and control stress from beating us down.

For working people like us, the first thing we must do is stop multitasking. Sometimes this method is not applicable all the time, or if you just needed to perform one or more things at the same time, try to lessen it at least. That can really exhaust you, give you headache, give you unfinished works and can give you a serious stress in the end of each day at your desk. That happened to me and believe me, it gave me trouble.

Why not make a nice schedule that is well organized? When we need to finish this and that, we must list them down according to their priority and if task A, B, C are urgent assignments to accomplish within a day, please examine which of them is the easier thing to do, maybe we can apply the trick we do while we were taking our exams in school, answer the easiest ones. Before getting drained with the difficult task, finish the easier ones... and you might have a lot of time concentrating with the difficult task within the rest of your day at work. With that, you did not give your mind pressure, often times, disorganization of your task will give you stress, nothing less.

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Posted by Editorial Team on 2/05/2012 10:19:00 PM in Building a Better Life, Stress Management

Guide Your Child in Using Social Networks Like Facebook

I found this topic an important matter to tackle about. Most of us have facebook accounts, right? This have been the giant among social networks so most of us are tempted to register and communicate with the people we knew online, connecting to our long lost friends.

But facebook has changed a lot... I won't exactly point that facebook allow users of bad motives like posting nude pictures and pornographic videos, but I am pointing these issues to users who intentionally created an account at fb for sharing such malicious materials over the vast ground of this very known social network with millions and millions of eyes glimpsing everyday at their homes and offices.

I won't really bother if all facebook users are old enough to understand such materials, we can manage of course, but how about those children below 13 years old? This virtual community is used as pornographic medium already, and that is really a bad news to parents whose children are also addicted to facebook.

How can you protect your child online? How can you protect your child from being influenced by such malicious content that can be seen as new stories everyday at their facebook walls?

Privacy has been an issue long before, yes you can set your account as private, but how can your protect yourself from receiving those contents? How can facebook strictly banned children under 13 years old from registering a new account? Or is this a serious task for parents to protect their children from being brainwashed by social networks uncensored contents? It is a big Yes!

Look around you, you must be aware of the possibilities you might regret in the end... the use of facebook is not bad if it's appropriate, it's not a pornographic site after all, but some are missing the point why they registered for an account there... so protect your child and think of their safety.

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Posted by Editorial Team on 2/04/2012 09:53:00 PM in Building a Better Life, Parental Guidance, Social Networks